Parenting 🚸

Parenting, I never have experience in this topic but I am the experiment of the topic. Parents doing every single thing for the kid from decision making, choosing their career, buliding their goals, forcing their opinions on them, choosing their life paths, this is not parenting and the actual goal of parenting is guidance and mentor who should teach them to do something and never ever proceed them in your actions just guide through your words and make them to do it by themselves is where the real parenting is fulfilled.

Few points that I personally want to change in parenting which will make good change in the life of many children, the first and the foremost when you as a parent should remember that you took a decision to have a kid and it's your responsibility to not force your dreams to that kid and make them to chose their dreams, because every child is born with uniqueness and they want to follow their own dream so never force your dreams on the kid. 

The next point to add on is that, making decisions for them, its their life and you can give advice or help them to make decisions but don't make a decision for them that will make them to stick to a comfort zone and they expect you every time when they make decisions and other problem that arise is that when you make decisions but they have a different opinion about your decision it ends up to be a problem and create misunderstanding among you and your kid. 

To add on the third point of parenting, never use their confession against them during an argument or a fight, when you find your kid yaps about his / her daily routine to you and they also say about what happened and the problem that had happened to them, sometimes parents use those points against them during an argument in home which will make them feel like they are judged or they feel that if we say our problems then parents will use that confess of them as a point in a argument. 

The final one, don't let you family honor or you tradition affect your child's life. I have seen people of my surroundings where they have restrictions about the passion of the kid, for instance if the child as a passion to be a actor or something in the media field or girls especially choosing IT and Technology based work some people ignore their choice by saying this statement " Please don't spoil our family honor" or " These kinds of job will never fit our family" and I wonder why do they go by honor which is of no use as we see in Henry 4 by William Shakespeare were he mentioned honor as something of no use, the lines goes like this "Honor is a mere scutcheon". We must learn to choose our profession by our passion and not by honor of the family and also parent wants the kid to marry someone to protect their families honor, and I would say this to all the parents that let your kid to choose their passion, profession and life as per their happiness and you could guide them with their decisions and never let your family honor to interfere with your kids happiness. 

Parenting is the choice made by you and never let your kid to face any kind of trauma and make them feel home and make them trust you with all their heart and let them feel happiness complete happiness with your parenting. Parents are not rulers but mentors of the kids life.